So the guy you're dating is actually taken (before you even met him)

I've must have heard this story thousands of times over. Stop me if you've heard this (don't stop me, please continue reading). Girl meets guy, girl falls for guy, girl finds out guy has been seriously dating another girl before her.

If you are one of these unfortunate souls I feel for you. I really do! Thus the creation of this blog site.

The truth is, the only one to blame is yourself for not seeing the signs. The call that goes straight to voice mail (for hours at a time) or the text messages that say, "Hey, busy tonight, call you tomorrow". (You can substitute the "tomorrow" with "when I can")

Yes, the guy is a jerk off for doing what he did. Which leads you to think to yourself, what kind of person would do that to another person?! Men. After centuries and centuries of the co-existence of men and women, there is still so little understanding of the other species.

Our existence is to spread our seed. To divide and conquer. It's our manifest dynasty. we can't help that its written into our genetic code. Its even written in the Declaration of Independence, "All men are created equal, that they are endowed by their creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness."

The Pursuit of Happiness. I rest my case for all of Men. Who is to question the Declaration of Independence?! Certainly not you, you female!

I digress. So girl meets guy, girl falls for guy, girl finds out guy has had another girl before ever meeting you. What's a girl to do? Here are your following options:

A) Try to win him over and take what is rightfully yours. I mean, if he did love her, he wouldn't be cheating on her. He's happiest with me! Right? WRONG! Men are men. Understand, memorize, and never forget.

If he was happiest with you, he would have left her and ran away with you to some island and you two would be eating exotic foods and enjoying sunsets over the crystal clear waters. The reason he's cheating is that he's either bored, tired of the same girl every night, and/or testing the waters.

B) Bust him with his current (the one he really wants) girlfriend.

Take him down! Hell hath no furry relative to a girl who has been double crossed! You'll do whatever you can to humiliate, breakdown, destroy him, and teach him a lesson in cheating. Cost and time are not issues, even in economic times like these.

However, women think with their heart and men think with well....the brain of the south. This is no new ground breaking discovery, its common knowledge. What women don't know is that no matter how many times men burn their finger on the hot stove, they'll do it again, and again, and again.

Sure you feel better now that hes single, desperate, crying naked in cold shower wishing for better days, but you didn't teach him a lesson, because us Men don't learn. We move and react. And because lets face it, in the end you'll look crazy and he'll still have the upper hand.

Finally,

C) Take the high road.

Some might say that this is showing defeat and weakness. I beg the differ. This shows to him that he wasn't that important anyways. Now I'm not saying let him off the hook completely. Make him sweat it out a bit. Tell him you sent his girlfriend a letter about your tryst. He'll be frantically sifting through her mail for the next few weeks trying to intercept it. Meanwhile, his girlfriend will question why he sits and waits for the mail to come through the opening of the door like a dog waiting for the mail for its master.

Whichever destiny you choose understand this, men do things for reasons that even men don't know. Sometimes its down right mean and at the cost of other peoples' (girls in this case, as is in most cases) emotions. The question isn't how to win him back or how you can wish he never met you. It's to move on. Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't treat you with the respect you deserve.

Men come and go as do the seasons in a year. Lets just hope the next season treats you more like spring rather than the dead of winter.