Do I Love You?

You've been dating your guy for sometime now and you wanna take it to the next level.  Is that level the "L" word? Is it the "M" word? no matter what level you're talking about you wonder if you guy is thinking the same thing. 

Here's the short answer.  If you're wondering, he's not thinking.  You'll know if he is...trust me.

Still, all you can think about is the rest of your life with him.  Getting married, having kids, owning a home, and growing old together.  That's great that you feel that way but you wonder, "why doesn't he?"  Everytime you bring up the future and how he's involved in that future, you notice he tries to either:

A) Shrug it off
B) Change the subject
C) Becomes condescending and just kisses you on the forehead

But why?

As the best selling book and movie states...He's just not that into you

He's into his fantasy football league, he's into going out with his buddies, he's into everything but his future with you.  It's not his fault.  Hes genetically predetermined to spread his seed and not be tied down to one girl.  I'm not condoning this, but its true.  This may be the one case that it's not you, it's him. 

You may be the perfect girl any guy could ask for, however, he may not be looking for that girl just yet.  Now I'm not saying every guy is like this.  Some guys have deep issues with committing.  Some tall-tale signs of this guy are:

1) Never sets plans in stone
2) Has the wondering eye that window shops constantly
3) Friends who never committed to anything

If this sounds like your guy, you're wasting your time.  I hate to say it but its true. 

Now if your guy sounds like the prior, he may just need some more time to warm up to the notion that life with you is great and something to look forward to.  The last thing you want to do is force him or persuade him into a commitment like that.  You may convince him now but years down the road it will lead to resentment and ultimately cheating/breaking up.

So here's my olive branch.  Let the relationship run its course.  He'll be ready when he's ready.  If that time isn't now and you need it now, you're with the wrong guy.  If he has commitment issue as stated earlier, then stop wasting your time and move onto bigger and better fish.